Are you a rude? How being a good listener made me a leader?
Many, some, or other times, one must have heard or heard saying someone, I/we/you/he/she is poor listener, I/we/you/he/she don’t listen, he/she is so annoying don’t even listen, and so on. Isn’t it annoying sometimes when we don’t listen or someone doesn’t listen to us carefully? Can listening carefully make me successful? Can listening make me a leader? Can be a good and careful listener resolve my issues and problems? Yes, listening carefully can help you achieve anything and everything that you wished for your life and even can do more miraculous wonders in one’s life. One may not be a good listener for several reasons, some believe in defending, stand, or impressing others and want to talk, react and respond without even listening and understanding the person or the group. There can be more reasons for being a bad listener such as, we feel criticized, annoyed, or offended. This might have been seen happening more often in the debates, group discussions, team meetings, client meetings, family discussions, and so on. This is not a shortcoming or something abnormal. Everyone on this earth is perfect and fit. It is just that our mind gets trained and has got groomed in a way over time hence turned into an annoying habit. This habit might have been developed since childhood, at a school, college, work, socially, environment one been to.
However, there is nothing to worry about, the good & wonderful news is this can be very easily fixed in a simple manner and with little or no hard work. Unknowingly, sometimes we accept or get into such or similar habits unintentionally looking or following others, or we think this is the only way to handle or manage the people and situations. So, the first note that you have to take is being a poor listener is not a good habit. Bad listeners are rude. We either defend, react, or else, unknowingly hence losing control of our own minds & emotions without understanding the consequences of it.
If you are one of the poor listeners and really want to change this habit then following the success mantra and the process will help you in being a different person in 21 days (sincere dedication). But advice is to chant this for a lifetime, or for the duration, you are sure the annoying habit is gone completely and you are no more a bad listener, impulsive, and annoying person.
There are several benefits to this. People around you will start admiring you as a change. You will be empathetic, optimistic, compassionate, and understanding than just being impulsive and judgmental. Your relationships with yourself, others, and everyone will blossom.
Moreover, your personal, social, and work-life will change around you. You will have more productive communications, meetings, and relationships with your family, friends, team, subordinates, boss, and clients. Your family, spouse, and children will start loving you. Your clients will change into long terms relationships. Your subordinates will respect you as a boss and look up to you for sharing their personal and professional issues. If you are a teacher at schools’ kids and students will love you. You will have more joy and fun in your team and at work, home & school. You will rise as a leader everyone wants to follow. As leaders, the first quality is being a good listener. When we listen to others, pause, and understand, it allows building rapport, a stronger, and long-lasting bond, and a relationship with that person and everyone around us.
The first step is to commit yourself; I want to be the best listener and listening carefully is my primary skill.
Close your eyes, relax, relax, relax, and look within peacefully and meditate for 1 minute, relax, how are you feeling now, just observe and note the thoughts that are going in your mind. After a minute of observing repeat the following 11 times, imagine politely and firmly speaking to your own mind, yourself, the person, and the group. Practice this every day when you first wake up in bed and follow it in your daily life and routine. You may repeat it as many times in a day as per your comfort. Experience the change before and after meditation.
I am a good listener, I listen to myself carefully, I listen to you carefully, you listen to me carefully, I listen to others carefully, others listen to me carefully, everyone listens to me carefully, everyone listens carefully to everyone. Listening carefully to myself, others, and everyone is my primary skill.
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